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Finding my Sparkle

1/6/2019

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If anyone has ever seen me in public before 8:00 am on a weekend - my criteria for being publicly acceptable is really rather forgiving.  

This weekend, I met a good friend for breakfast at 8:00 am.

I got out of bed at 7:25 which gave me plenty of time to wash my face, brush my teeth, throw on some chapstick, and finger comb my hair. I couldn't even brush it because my son stole my hairbrush the night before.  A pair of jeans, hoodie and favorite sunnies later I was well on my way to breakfast.  

As we sat there having coffee and chatting, a waitress walked up and with the biggest smile and said "I love your sparkles" (referring to my gray hair) and how she can't wait to see it progress over time.

Those few words absolutely made my day!  To have someone I have never met compliment me with a giant smile is something I think we can all do with a  bit more of.  

It was unexpected and genuine.  

Over the last few weeks I had been spending a good bit of time thinking about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who elevate you, people who make you feel pretty even in the moments where you finger comb your hair, people who support your ideas and vision, people who challenge your beliefs and make you a better person, people who will be by your side in the most amazing of moments and in the darkest of hours.

It's so easy to make someone's day - one kind sentiment shared with a stranger can linger in their thoughts and maybe even inspire them!

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After breakfast, I had an appointment with my stylist and decided to go back to a heavy bang which I think emphasizes my gray in a lovely way.
I love my sparkles too!!

I think the more positivity and support for one another that we put out into the universe the better we become and the better we feel about others and ourselves.  It certainly beats the alternative!

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Cristy P.
1/7/2019 05:43:02 am

Referring to grays as sparkle makes me smile. That she shared her heartfelt words is a blessing in this world. Words are free. Use them to raise people up. One small sentence can change the world. Thanks for sharing.
PS. You do have the most badass black hair and sparkles I’ve ever seen! Viva la bangs!

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Deferring Zen link
1/7/2019 09:38:03 am

Awww thank you!! I go though a cycle of having bangs, pinning them to the side, growing them out, cutting bangs again - it's a 3 year never ending cycle.

I thought it was a lovely thing to say to someone!! I think it looks like I have Christmas Tinsel in my hair. But just to receive unexpected feedback that was NICE, especially based on how I rolled out of the house - it made my day.

I try to do the same to others and I have realized compliments catch people off guard - maybe we're so used to criticism(?)

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CT
2/24/2019 07:39:25 pm

Gray suits you. The sparkle is amazing.

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Deferring Zen link
2/24/2019 08:06:49 pm

Thanks so very much! It has actually been a really fun process. I wasn't sure what it would look like when I stopped coloring it. Most of my gray is actually under the top layers (temples and such) when I pull my hair back it's an entirely different look than when it's down. It's really fun I think, even if I will never get carded again ... not even in the darkest of bars.

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5/7/2020 07:00:29 pm

You don't have to feel bad about yourself. There are days wherein we feel so down and we couldn't find a solution to what seems to be a problem. But you don't have to worry because life is simply like that. Don't worry because better days are coming wherein you will only smile and be happy. I am sure that there is also a person who is willing to make your day happy and you need to divert your attention to them!

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Laura link
9/3/2021 03:37:00 pm

Great reading yoour post

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