I was thinking this morning about how I'm super focused on Self Acceptance but kicked off a blog that is entirely about change. It's saying to the world; I accept me, however I am going to change nearly every single thing about myself. You can accept a lot of things you don't like but you don't have to accept that's your permanent state. CHANGE WHAT YOU DON'T LIKE
It's like accepting that you bought and live in a condemned house but know that you can't live in that house so you kick off a massive renovation.
I'm the condemned house and this is my renovation!!
HGTV could pick up my story and the Property Brothers could wander around and say things like "well THIS has to go" and "this won't look like this in 7 weeks, you gotta have a vision, the foundation is strong, it just needs A LOT of work", etc.
I do however appreciate the couples wanting a 12,000 Sq Ft house, with 14 bedrooms / 20 bathrooms, massive yard, dog lap pool, elevator, lacrosse field in the middle of Manhattan on a $17.00 budget. Because that's how I approach working out - Well I worked out twice since September, I should look like a swimsuit model by now. I will say I have worked out 3 times this week, so I am almost there.
Writing this post reminds me of when son went to a Martial Arts school that did a 1000 sit ups every year on New Year's Day. In my head I was like, well I did sit ups a few months ago, I can do 1000, easily. We went, we finished with the group, I had fun and thought "OMG I'm in great shape, this is awesome, I'm unstoppable" - two days later I couldn't move. I had to slide out of chairs, It hurt to laugh, I wore skirts for a week because I couldn't bend over to put pants on, etc.
While I never doubted my ability to do it, I learned that it's not enough to just show up and shine for a brief moment. Had I been doing what I should have been doing all along, things would have been so much easier afterwards.
That's an underlying current in most things in my life - I can shine when I need to but life would be sooooo much easier if everything wasn't executed on-demand or during a fire drill. A little planning wouldn't kill me.
It's a welcome renovation as this little house has great bones and it can be absolutely anything I want it to be.
I know if I were to just focus on my ideal version of myself, the possibilities would be endless; in my personal life, in my career, how I feel personally, etc.
I spend a lot of time thinking about "Future-State" me and often times, it's just an exercise on paper. I'm changing what I don't like and it feels pretty amazing.
Shitty friends? Get rid of them. Don't like the way you eat? Change your diet. Don't like your job? Get a new one that inspires you. What to try something new? Sign Up and Show Up.
In all honestly, my empowerment really stems from my "life mantra" coffee cup that I bought last November on Amazon. It was the spark to the fire. Maybe you need one too?!? It's a great reminder!